Explore our articles about self-less coaching.
Example: Using AI to Create Leadership Toolkits
This example shows how AI tools, like ChatGPT, can help create tailored resources when guided with clear questions. In this case, Katrijn and Youri put significant thought into their questions…
Building your Coaching Toolkit for the 5 Types of Tools
1: Pointers Deeper understanding: 2: Questions Apparent development: Deeper understanding: 3: Exercises Apparent development: Deeper understanding: 4: Analogies Apparent development: Deeper understanding: 5: Understanding Checks Apparent development: Deeper understanding: Finding…
The 3 Loops of Non-Learning
Loop 1: Gathering & Organizing Apparent doing: While knowing: Loop 2: Reflecting & Refining Apparent doing: While knowing: Loop 3: Dissolving & Emerging Apparent doing: While knowing: The Dance Between…
Introducing 5 Types of Tools + Coaching Interventions File
Think of yourself as a guide helping someone explore their own house, but they believe they’re locked in just one room. Your toolkit helps them discover the whole house was…
The 5 Steps for Filling your Nondual-Inspired Toolkit
Everything that follows is both essential and completely unnecessary. Each “step” is simultaneously something to do and nothing to take too seriously. Hold this paradox lightly as we proceed. 1:…
11 Advanced Insight Techniques & Nondual Tools
11 advanced approaches 1. Paradoxical questioning: Use questions that challenge the very premise of the client’s perceived problem. For example: 2. Reversing subject-object relationships: Guide the client to explore whether…
10 Tips for Facilitating Insight in Coaching
10 tips on how to work towards insight 1. Create space for silence: Allow moments of quiet during the session when they naturally occur. Often, insights arise in the gaps…
Introduction to Insight-Based Coaching
In nondual coaching, we’re not really working with content except as a lever to get to insight. We’re not helping clients sort through their problems to find answers in the…
Working with Your Own Resistance as a Coach – 15 tips
1. Recognize and Welcome: Simply notice when resistance arises in you. This awareness itself is a powerful step. Silently acknowledge it: “Ah, resistance is here.” Welcome it as a guest,…
10 Paradoxical Approaches to Resistance in Coaching
1. Amplifying Resistance: Instead of trying to reduce resistance, invite the client to fully embody it. Say something like, “Let’s make this resistance as strong as possible. Really feel into…
7 Strategies for Working with Resistance in Coaching
1. Acknowledge and welcome: When you notice resistance in a client, acknowledge it. For example, say: “I sense there’s hesitation. Can we explore that?” This shows the client that resistance…
The 10 Characteristics of Nondual Coaching Clients
The 10 common characteristics of the audience Nondual coaching is particularly beneficial for clients at a certain stage in their personal and spiritual development. Ideal clients typically exhibit the following…
Enlightenment Before Teaching
Anyone can be a good guide if they have seen the truth of this understanding thoroughly enough (beyond lasting doubts) for themselves and learn the technical skills of nondual inquiry.…
Coaching Without a Coach (or Client)
Over the years, Katrijn and Youri have worked closely with dozens of aspiring nondual coaches, many of whom hesitated to call themselves coaches. This led to the question: Can coaching…
Introduction to Dealing with Client Resistance
Your greatest “adversary” as a coach is never the client but often the client’s beliefs or thought patterns (and your own, of course). No matter how much you prepare the…
The 7 Conditions for Non-Positional Relating
1. Mutual Recognition of Oneness Both coach and client recognize and respect that at the deepest level, there is no fundamental separation between them; both are expressions of the same…
The 7 Benefits of Non-Positional Relating
Benefits of Non-Positional Relating in Nondual Coaching In nondual coaching, non-positional relating offers profound benefits by guiding clients to recognize their true nature, transcending personal identity and conventional notions of…
Code of Ethics for Nondual Coaches – First Draft
1. Integrity and Authenticity Uphold the highest standards of integrity and authenticity in all coaching practices. Ensure all interactions are grounded in genuine nondual understanding, reflecting the timeless teachings of…
Who is the entrepreneur?
‘Who is the entrepreneur?’ This is a very tricky question. Before you know it, you might diminish the power of this question. For example, if you immediately respond that there’s…
A Definition of Nondual Coaching + 7 Benefits
Is a thriving nondual coaching practice just fantasy? Not because of the coaching aspect. You’re a professional coach, right? Not even because of the nondual understanding. We’re assuming that is…
The Danger of Changing your Mindset
It’s funny: the moment we talk business, nondual enthusiasts become so tentative. I wonder why. They claim certain things are not done while insisting other things must be followed no…
Pricing Nondual Services – 8 steps
8 steps to directly determine your pricing for your nondual service: The pricing aspect brings us face-to-face with mental resistance. It’s interesting to see that, even when we believe we’ve…
True Confidence as a Nondual Coach
It’s time for nonduality to find its home in professional coaching. The age of “sages on stages” is over. Nonduality has had a long phase of (male) teachers sitting on…
Identifying Client Expectations – 7 Beliefs that Hinder Coaching
As a nondual coach, you may be ready to let go of the label of “coach,” allowing your role to flow naturally without attachment. However, your client may still hold…
Choosing your Audience – Accessibility Versus Specification
As a nondual service provider, you might want to open your services to everyone, believing that everyone can benefit from a nondual approach. You’re working for the whole of life,…
Being a Nondual Coach – 8 Fake Conditions
Are there specific qualifications required to be a nondual coach, or can anyone simply claim the title without certification or proof? In truth, anyone can call themselves a nondual coach.…
Finding your Unique Nondual Coaching Style
Me: “Hi ChatGPT, explain nonduality in High Valyrian.”ChatGPT: “Lādrē urne unē sēte iehor. Vezof līr morghūlis, rhaeshis kostōba issi.” If you’re not a Game of Thrones fan, you probably wouldn’t…
Narrow Down your Tools – Filter System
Tailoring interventions to the individual client We can and should guide the client with additional questions and further exercises developed specifically to match their struggles. Here are some ideas on…
Understanding Resistance in Coaching – 10 Client Indicators
Working with Resistance When we encounter resistance, whether in ourselves as coaches or in our clients, we’re uncovering the raw material for transformation. Resistance should be celebrated because it is…
Integrate Nonduality into Everyday Practices – 5 Questions
As a coach, you may have encountered the concept of nonduality in your personal or professional journey. But how can this understanding be woven into your coaching practice? Is it…
Speaking the Language of the Client
As soon as you start engaging with the client, start taking notes about the specific examples, imagery, and language they use. The more you can mirror their language and events…
Nondual Marketing Strategies – Marketing Plan PDF
To make a living from your nondual practice, it’s essential to apply it to something tangible, such as a popular topic like servant leadership. Many coaches struggle to turn their…
Non-Positional Relating Preparation – Visualization
Here’s a short, powerful visualization for us nondual coaches to use before client sessions: Close your eyes and take a deep breath. As you exhale, feel the boundaries of your…
A Noble Offering
In Eastern traditions, coaching is considered one of the noblest arts. A coach, often referred to as a guru, is respected more than parents and even more than God. Kabir…
The Danger of Separation in Coaching
Over the years, Katrijn and Youri worked closely with dozens of (aspiring) nondual coaches. Some of them hesitated to simply call themselves coaches, yet they struggled to find a more…
Assessing Nondual Insight – NETI Questionnaire
In coaching journeys, self-assessment tools have become virtually indispensable. But what if you are (or aspire to be) a nondual coach? Does it still make sense to use such tools?…
Measuring Receptiveness for Insight
Not long ago, I spoke with a woman who was unsure about attending our training on developing unconditional nondual confidence. She felt she needed a specific goal or expectation to…
The Power of Forgetting
Forgetting often carries a negative connotation, but is that really fair? To me, forgetting reveals life’s true beauty. In moments of true forgetting, bliss and flow emerge. That’s why: –…
Beyond Fixing: The Power of Dialogue in Coaching
What is the difference between a discussion and a dialogue, and how does this relate to the role of a therapist (or coach/teacher)? A discussion often involves a need to…
The Power of Dialogue
What is the main difference between a discussion and a dialogue, if any? I often view a discussion as a limited form of dialogue. If you agree or disagree with…
Bridging the Gap with Clients
“A coaching client must first be truly receptive before trying out a nondual approach.” Common belief from aspiring nondual coaches True and false! Let me explain why. When someone has…
Nonduality: Useful or Useless?
The question to contemplate in this lesson is: How does nondual inquiry and gaining nondual insight relate to nondual coaching? Are they the same or different? If different, in what…
The 10 Principles of Nondual Coaching + Checklist PDF
Understanding the 10 nondual principles is one thing, but truly living them can transform your nondual coaching practice. We’ve created a checklist to help you gauge how well you’ve mastered…
Principle-Based Coaching + Cheat Sheet PDF
Nondual coaching at NDLCA represents life coaching in its purest form, rooted not in specific methods or teachings of nonduality but through a coherent application of nondual principles. At NDLCA,…
Example of 60 Nondual Interventions “by” Youri
The following table is a summary of interventions from Not Your Responsibility by Youri Hermes. The book offers a nondual perspective on responsibility, aiming to free individuals from limiting beliefs…
The 10 Nondual Transformations
The power of true transformation lies in its unforgettable nature. After true transformation, there’s no need for subsequent reminders. Imagine how liberating that would be. But how does true transformation…